As a reminder I am leaving town tomorrow, Sunday. I will be back on Wednesday and will resume appointments on Thursday, which I have already booked in part.
Living is interesting and you never know what life will put before you, or how you will react, but I offer these words of wisdom from Pema Chodran, which I have found relevant in the last few weeks:
"Feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we're holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we'd rather collapse and back away. They're like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we're stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it's with us wherever we are."
- Pema Chodran
I find that the things that we don't want to deal with like disappointment, fear and anger are what "stick," and I know this because this is what I work on with clients and even myself. But these things that stick to the muscle and body are temporary and if we can catch them they are no longer so tacky. In good sessions we approach them gently and with intent to release the emotion, whatever is stuck, and my hope always is that I offer the space to release them.
We don't always have to block what is happening and so become the catcher of things bodily, emotionally, for what we are experiencing.
In the time that we have I think, personally, it's always my wisest choice to embrace rather than throw up a shield and fault or deny what is happening. I'm not saying any one of us, including myself, is perfect at this, but if we can be in the moment with out thoughts and feeling, to accept what is happening whether we agree with it or not, we're better off to work with it, and less likely to internalize it. Maybe then there is no need for "release" or therapeutic touch, maybe the appointment I have is more about clarifying the mind or relaxing the body. Again, I am not implying that there is a fault there, when we become the catcher to these feelings, but it is something I consider as a human being in my journey through this life.
Reiki and body work, heck most alternative therapies that treat the whole being are good at addressing these states or feelings, because, when done properly, they offer the safe space where they can be felt and let go. In feeling we find the answer, the body no longer holds onto the pain, and sometimes it is necessary to offer compassionate touch to make it possible, but I find if I can catch that moment when I am beveled between tightening up, clenching, or breathing and accepting, I can embrace a situation or a difficult moment in a relationship, without internalizing it.
This I think is what we want, not holding something to the point of making it a physical pain or stress. Right?
Tomorrow I drive north to see mom and dad. Yes. Lovely. I will be available again on Thursday and, I hope, I see you soon.